I have lately found it very confusing to state whom does one call a friend? When we are young we are so clear who is a friend and who is not. We are even sure who is our best friend and who is not our friend at all. However, now I find it really confusing. I have gone from feeling a person as a friend few months ago and suddenly realising that may be she is actually not a friend after all. I am just wondering what causes our mind to come to such contrasting conclusions.
So who do we call a friend? Some one we like or some one who likes us? Some one who makes us laugh or some one who fights with us freely? Some one who knows to keep her behavior in check around you or some one who acts as free as possible with you? Some one who always makes you feel good about yourself or some one who shows you your ugly side from time to time? Some one who is always there for you or some one who always tries to help her best when she is there for you? Some one who is always honest to you or some one who chooses what to tell you on the basis what won't hurt you? Some one who listens to all your talks or some one who understands you even when you don't say much? Some one who acts all good with you all the time or some one who is at times mean with you too? SO many questions. I am not sure if there is any right answer, at least, for myself.
Next question is where do you find friends? Do you find them only in school and colleges? Can one find them in family? Can we find friends ever in our elders or will they always be friend like category? I have heard it so many times that don't try to find friends at your work place as you will only be disillusioning your self. But is it so? Can we not at all find friends at your work place? What percentage of this so called 'true friendship' should be there to be able to name a relationship as friendship? Is it possible that we make friends even without realising that they are our friends?
How does one make friends? Can one even make friends or is it a very natural process that happens on its own? Are there ways to make some one a better friend?
I have experienced that at times even a single meeting of two people of less than an hour is enough to make people realize that they are going to be friends forever and at times even a life time is less to make some one a friend of yours. What is it inside you that gives you this realization? Is it possible that we can make everybody a good friend with different and special efforts? or is it impossible to make everybody a good friend? Is it possible that some one can be a very good friend to you but not vice-versa? If yes, then is one-sided friendship really a friendship?
God so many questions... I am sure I have answers to all the above some where inside me at a deep down corner. I am just not able to see it right now. May be I will. Amen!
